My generation seems to be attending more funerals than weddings, at a time where it should still be the other way around.Â Even as a wedding photographer I seem to be attending more funerals than weddings, which is frightening.
This week alone, my circle has had two very unexpected losses.Â One of these gorgeous women I worked with on shoots & she was a phenomenal stylist & small business owner.Â The other was counted as Mum to me for a good many years, she ran a strong small business & I looked up to her a lot.
Honestly, Iâ€™m not dealing all too well at the moment & would ask that you please forgive me if my replies to emails & messages are slow &/or short.Â Iâ€™ll get through it, but I do need a bit of time to come to terms with it.Â I wont be letting any booked clients down.Â Those who had bookings that this might effect, have already been contacted.Â Please do not worry about bookings.Â This is more about I may be slow to respond to messages.
It is never easy to lose someone.Â Recently I wrote that a great place to look for a way to pull through losing a friend or loved one, is by spending time with other people who have suffered that same loss. Â Especially if it’s the loss of the same person. Â It’s why wakes are such an important thing. Go out together for a tea/coffee/water or sit in a park & just talk. Â Sit quietly under the blanket fort you built together. Remember the fun & laugh. Â It’s healthy to laugh at fond memories, & it’s not at all disrespectful to the person you have lost. Â Celebrate their life, rather than focus on their death.
If you have been affected by a loss recently, or if you are struggling heavily with something else, please reach out & talk to someone.Â There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Friends are your first & most important support network.
If you feel you canâ€™t reach out to a friend, or you donâ€™t want to burden them with the weight, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36. That’s exactly what they are there for & they aren’t going to mind nor judge you.Â If you can’t deal with phones, this link will take you to their online chat & their email contact options.